It has certainly been a very busy week on the support line and email. There is always an increase after an article or interview on estrangement.

I know it takes a great deal of courage to pick up the phone to have that conversation, often people will just say ,”I don’t really know why I am ringing you?” 20 minutes later I hope they do know why.

One of the things that is said is that grandparents feel they can’t enjoy their life anymore and they are enveloped by sadness every single day.

I don’t think it matters if you have been going through this for one month or 16 years, you still carry it around with you everyday. What does happen is that you do eventually find a place of acceptance and some peace.

Whenever we go through trauma and tragedy you notice how life still goes on around you, your life may feel as though it is falling apart but the sun still comes up, people walk past your house and people laugh. Don’t they know what you are going through?

No, they don’t, and maybe it is good that they don’t. I certainly would never wish this on anyone.

Life does still go on, people go about their daily business blissfully unaware.

For me knowing that they are still carrying on is a comfort,because it shows that life will continue whatever is going on.

When we are trying to come to terms with this grief we can lose our ability to enjoy anything.

It as though we need to be given permission to laugh and to have fun.

Yes, things are hard, but a smile and a laugh are so theraputic.

It enables us to acknowledge that although we are hurting inside, we still are present in this moment, a moment to be cherished and valued.

I know I do go on about this but I do believe that if we can share the good things in our lives, and we all do have good things, we can face whatever life throws at us.

So today, should you need it, I give you all permission to go out there and have a laugh with someone.

Jane.