It is totally understandable that when you find yourself apart from your grandchildren that it can take over your life. It seems every waking moment is consumed with thoughts of what ifs?

After ten years of estrangement I know only too well how it can effect you.

Talking to so many grandparents on a daily basis I am so aware of the real desperation they all feel. I have felt that way to.

Sadly it is not long before you realise that you can do nothing about it, you can’t change what has happened so how do you somehow take your life forward?

We know that we have to take back control for our own mental and physical health, if we are unwell we can’t help ourselves or others.

As some of you already know I am a member of Gospel Generation Community Choir, and yesterday I shared in a whole day of singing.

Every year we have a great ‘Sing’ conference, where we learn new material, and work with different choir leaders and learn about our voices.

One of our choir members was wearing an amazingly appropriate T.Shirt, on the front it said, ” I don’t need therapy, I am part of a choir.”

We all know how songs and music can be emotive, memory joggers, and fill us with a general feeling of well-being.

Singing with a group of people, from all different walks of life, most with their own personal struggles enables us to come together and to feel that wonderful feeling of belonging.

GGCC, is of course about gospel music, steeped in history. Music that comes from the days of slavery. People who were enduring the most terrible of conditions still managed to sing out about their struggles, to believe that there was a better life waiting for them, a feeling of hope.

These songs of hope, live on.

For me being part of this wonderful group of people, has most definitely been my therapy. A place where I can just let the words of hope surround me.

Doing something different, taking us out of our comfort zone is almost always positive.

Learning a new skill, going somewhere new, meeting new people, is the first step of taking back that control.

If you think joining a choir might be for you, there are lots of community choirs all over the country. Go on, give it a go, I know you won’t regret it.

Jane