What will be your legacy?

Just around the corner from us there is a children’s park and during the snow yesterday it was full of grandparents and children, grandparents who had been called for unexpected child care duties.

The air was full of laughter and giggles as snowballs flew past, some finding their intended target down a brother or sisters neck!

Just how it should be, grandparents and grandchildren enjoying one an others company.

I started thinking about that unique relationship between grandchildren and grandparent, and why is it that it goes so badly wrong for so many people?

Of course I don’t have an answer, even after now almost 12 years of running BGSG I don’t understand it anymore than I did at the very beginning, I suppose I never will.

Children are learning constantly, they are like blotting paper.

The children playing in the park were learning from their grandparents, not only their expertise in snowman building but in every way.

Through history we have all learnt from the older generation.

New parents would ask their parents for advice and support.

Now, it seems all too often that grandparents are told they are interfering and that they must abide by rules.

What on earth is that all about?

I know if I had told my Mum she had to abide by rules exactly what she would have said, I can’t write it as it would have been very rude!

Of course grandparents should not interfere, and it can be difficult to get it right, thinking our own thoughts but not speaking them is key.

All generations that have come before us, have left a legacy.

What will be ours?

I hope that by living our lives to the full, by being grateful for all of those wonderful people we do have in our lives, by helping and thinking of others and by trying to always doing the right thing, then we have nothing to reproach ourselves for.

That will be our legacy.



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Jane setup Bristol Grandparent Support Group in 2007 after a string of incidents led to the loss of contact with her Grand Daughter.

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