This week I had the privilege to attend the funeral of a good friend’s mum.
Yes, it was a privilege.
The church was full with standing room only, to celebrate the life of a lady who had clearly touched many peoples lives, she touched every age.
Each person was there with their own personal thoughts of this wonderful lady. Someone who really knew what family meant, she was always there to listen, always there with time and patience. Ready to impart her experiences and knowledge of life.
My memory was of when she and her choir sang at our fund raising concert, there she was with a twinkle in her eye, she and the other ladies had given of their time, rehearsing for weeks just wanting to be part of our concert.
We learnt a great deal about her at the service, she had an eventful life and a life she obviously lived to the full.
Apparently she had a wicked sense of humour, and always had enough food to cater for anyone who might just drop in, always had a spare bed if someone needed a bed and that listening ear.
The most moving thing of all was at the end of the service when her 11 grandchildren stood up and spoke so lovingly about her, they stood together, supporting one another, determined to have their say.
How I wish I could convey the overwhelming sense of family there was.
A true family in every sense of the word.
No doubt through the years there may have been differences of opinions,possibly a few arguments, but the family always understood what family really meant.
In times of difficulty you sort it out, in times of joy you celebrate.
How do we show this generation of estranged children/grandchildren what family really means?
They have never known, or never been taught how to love and respect family members, even if you don’t necessarily agree all the time.
They have not been able to be empowered by family relationships, they say they are not bothered, I don’t believe that. I believe they are bothered but just lost in the destruction of family breakdown.
Somehow, somewhere we have to be able to show them what it means to be part of a family, that family should look out for one another, should always be the people you can turn to.
Thank you to the family last week for making me see the true meaning of family, the family of a wonderful lady, what an amazing legacy they all are to her.
A lesson for us all.