Today would have been my wonderful mums birthday, I sadly lost her to cancer many years ago, but it feels like yesterday. I miss her so much, she was a very special person and was loved by so many.
She was the perfect mum and gran, she was always there if needed, supportive and never judgemental.
My boys were lucky enough to have her in their lives 24/7 as we all lived together, and she always had time for them whatever she was doing or how ever poorly she became. I never heard her moan about anything, even after dad walking out on us after being married to her for 33 years, her only concern was that the family were ok.
She had rheumatoid arthritis for many years and eventually she had to use a wheelchair, but even taking her shopping was an hilarious occasion. She was very naughty and when people would talk over her, as though she wasn’t there, she would play the game and just stare into space! I often threatened to leave her by the bananas if she didn’t behave, she would say,” That’s ok, I’ll wait till Marc finishes work and he will bring me home.” (He was a manager in the store.)
I can’t remember a day that passed that we weren’t falling about laughing at something or other.
I know our boys lives were enriched for her being with us, and her values will always be with them.
When she was diagnosed with cancer, my world fell apart, I had no idea how I was going to carry on without her, but her courage and dignity was something to be seen, so I owed it to her to do the best I could.
We still live in the same house and she is all around us, not in photos or things, but in our hearts, in how we try and live our lives. If I can be half the person she was then I have achieved something.
I am very sad that she never met our eldest granddaughter, she would have loved her, but I am so glad that she wasn’t here to witness the estrangement that happened it would have broken her heart.
So today is for you mum, as always in our hearts.