Stand up and be counted

You will have seen that BGSG and others are campaigning for recognition that to alienate children/grandchildren is emotional abuse.

Recognition from organisations, charities and government departments, at present is none existent, in fact completely the reverse.

Perhaps there is some difficulty in understanding what emotional abuse is, or is it the word abuse that is causing problems?

The definition of abuse is : use, something to bad effect or bad purpose, treat with cruelty or violence, especially regularly.

That seems to be straightforward.

To prevent a child/grandchild a loving relationship with both parents and grandparents is indeed to bad effect and very cruel.

Ok so what about the emotional: a strong feeling deriving from one’s circumstances, mood or relationships with others. Instinctive or intuitive feeling.

I don’t think that needs further explanation.

Emotional abuse covers denying contact or limiting it, making false allegations, not allowing a child/grandchild to mention family members, telling a child/grandchild that they are not loved or cared about by a family member, consistently telling a child/grandchild that a family member is a bad person, child/grandchild told not to call a parent Mum or Dad, and not to call Grandad or Grandma anymore.

The very people who these children have loved and had loving relationships with now denied to them.

Is this OK?

It is time for all concerned to recognise this as emotional abuse against children, and to acknowledge the damage it is doing to millions of children/grandchildren.


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Jane setup Bristol Grandparent Support Group in 2007 after a string of incidents led to the loss of contact with her Grand Daughter.

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