I have written about this before, but it is so important it is worth revisiting.

When you are facing all of the heartbreak and endless desperation of estrangement and alienation it becomes the thing we think about, day in day out.

Constantly questioning our own actions.

Why on earth has this happened?

Estrangement can and does control our lives, our thoughts and is all encompassing. It becomes difficult to get on with life, difficult to see any reason to go on.

When I talk to grandparents I always tell them that they must self protect.

More often than not, they will say they don’t know how to.

For years we have been the ones who have looked after others, be it grandmothers or grandfathers, we have lived in a time when, it is down to us to make sure everyone is ok, that our family are safe, that they have food on the table, that we are the providers.

So it is hardly surprising that we don’t know how to look after ourselves.

To look after ourselves doesn’t mean that we are being selfish.

To enable us to live our lives it is absolutely vital that we make sure we are ok.

Are you ok?

Asking yourself that question everyday, will make you focus on you, check yourself out. Make sure you are looking after you.

You need to look after your physical and mental well-being.

Ask yourself if you are eating properly, getting rest, allow yourself time for friends, getting out in Nature and soaking it in.

Allow yourself to have some fun, plan something everyday that you can look forward to.

Get to know yourself, and find out what makes you tick, you are the best person to know the answer to that.

Each and everyone of you are a valued member of society, you all have so much to offer, but you need to feel at peace with yourself, knowing that you are as healthy as you can be.

Why should I care about me?

You owe it to yourself to care, we have all be given this life, things may not, at present, be as we had hoped for, but nevertheless we are here, we are alive and we can all make a difference.

Everyday counts, don’t waste these precious days for tomorrow, today will have gone.


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Jane setup Bristol Grandparent Support Group in 2007 after a string of incidents led to the loss of contact with her Grand Daughter.

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