Prevention is better than cure.

There is no doubt that estrangement and alienation has occurred for many years, but the cruelty and ‘cult’ like feel seems to be much more now, how on earth do we find ourselves in this heartbreaking situation?

We know according to recent reports that there is approximately 2 million grandchildren are suffering this emotional abuse.

What I can never get me head around is, if that figure was a headline, as it should be, that ‘2 million children are suffering emotional abuse’, the general public would be up in arms, and government would have to respond. Sadly, this is still a hidden statistic, and the general public never understand unless they, or a family member are touched by it.

So it is up to every single person to keep up the pressure, to keep raising public awareness.

Nothing has changed or improved in the 12 years that I have been involved myself.

We will all have different views as to why we have such large numbers going through the trauma of estrangement/alienation.

There is no doubt that over the last 50 years, family has been undervalued.

Being a women of a certain age, I was fortunate enough to live through the 60’s, and I saw first hand the enormous changes that happened during this time.

My Mums generation were still the generation that generally, there was a wife and mum at home while the ‘man’ of the house went out as the bread winner, women brought up the family and looked after their husbands.

Of course I am generalising.

The state did not fall in and support people.

Family did.

Our parents learnt from their parents, the children’s grandparents, there were no advice lines, or search engines to tell you how to bring up a family. They listened and respected the older generation, and the support was always there.

In the 60’s that all changed.

Women were offered control.

Control in when they would start a family, they could have a career, the freedom was immense. A freedom that had not been possible before.

Women got the equality they had strived for.

I am a believer in true equality, and as I see it that means that all people should be treated equally. That is a very different thing from radical feminism, which is what we are experiencing now.

Can you imagine how it felt too suddenly be handed such freedom?

It was quite overwhelming.

Women could travel where and when they wanted, they could become high earners in their own right and suddenly, men seemed to be superfluous. They no longer had to be the protecter and hunter gatherer.

I said it was an amazing time to be alive, and it was, but we had no idea where it was leading us.

As is said, ‘Be careful what you wish for.’

With this control came this new breed of women, not all women obviously, the radical feminist was born.

They came together, and continue to this day, to be a very powerful lobby, a lobby that no man could ever disagree with, for fear of being accused of discrimination or worse.

I have used the word ‘cult’ because it does feel that way. You only have to read certain forums to see what I mean, these women get together and whip up others, they tell them to estrange/alienate family members and cut them out of their children’s lives.

There is no doubt that private law is not the place for these cases, this is a child protection issue against millions of children and is a crime, therefore a criminal offence. Family law feels as though it is ‘fire fighting’.

Everyone involved, must stop the fire from starting in the first place, be honest and say that the whole system needs reform, to protect millions of young people.

The title of this blog is ‘Prevention is better than cure,’ and it is.

There is no cure from this epidemic.

Education is key.

Educating children about relationships and responsibility,  educating professionals in alienation, education therapists in alienation and educating government on the value of family in our society.

At a time of such uncertainty throughout the world, family is more important than ever before.

 

 

About Jane

Jane setup Bristol Grandparent Support Group in 2007 after a string of incidents led to the loss of contact with her Grand Daughter.

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