For those of you who don’t know April 25th is Parental Alienation Awareness Day around the world.
It is marked in all different ways across the globe, here in the UK there will be a march from the Royal Courts of Justice to No:10 Downing Street, it allows those most affected to show solidarity and to highlight the rights of children to on ongoing relationships with parents and all family members after family breakdown.
Each individual taking part in the march will have their own painful story to tell, Mums, Dads, Grandparents,Aunts, Uncles ect all who face the living bereavement of alienation on a daily basis.
It is all too often assumed that if you are a Mum or Dad you have a legal right to see your children, and so you do, but reality is somewhat different.
Children are brainwashed into hating the non resident parent, they are told lies, they are told that they are not loved and that the non resident parent doesn’t care about them anymore.
False allegations are made and there is no way to refute them.
Non resident parents who have a Child Arrangement Order have those orders breached, over and over again. They are not worth the paper they are written on.
The resident parent will find all sorts of excuses for not turning up at the agreed time and place.
There is rarely a consequence for a breach of an order, they play the system, and the system is not fit for purpose.
Being a Mum of a son who was denied contact for 11 years, I have witnessed for myself the damage that does, a proud Dad became a broken man in front of our eyes. As grandparents we just wanted to see our son being able to hug his daughter again, it was never about us. We would have willingly have taken a back seat if it had enabled a reconciliation.
As you know we have been so lucky that our granddaughter decided to make contact with her Dad and then us a year ago, but I will never forget the look in our sons eyes when he couldn’t see her, lost and haunted.
To all the non resident parents out there I shall be thinking of you especially tomorrow and never give up Hope, the children may have been told all sorts of untruths about you but you are still their Mum or Dad and they still love you and hold you in their hearts and one day they will want you in their lives.
Please never say, ‘Well you are the child’s parent so you have a right to see your children,’ if only it was that easy, try telling that to the people marching tomorrow.
Many non resident parents find it so painful they sadly decide to take their own lives, they will all be remembered tomorrow.