I am not sure how many times we have to keep stressing that we are not looking for grandparents rights.
Everywhere, everyone insists on talking about Grandparents Rights.
We are working towards rights of grandchildren in accessing their grandparents after a family breakdown.
I will shout this from the roof tops if necessary.
You may wonder why on earth it matters, it is just phraseology but it is so much more than that.
As soon as you start talking about grandparents rights, it causes all sorts of comment.
Parents must come first, children have the right to be loved and cared for by both their parents. They love them both equally.
Many parents, will say things like, why should grandparents have rights over and above them. I have personally never said that, and would never suggest such a thing.
I know from personal experience how it feels to have a son who has been alienated from his daughter, and I have always worked towards his reconciliation with her. If that meant us stepping away then thats what we would have done.
Grandparents Rights is an antagonist phrase.
Unfortunately as we have seen over the last 10 days, the majority of the media using that phrase, as I have said too many times over those last 10 days, it just makes good headlines, and it is always contentious.
A parent wrote under one article, ‘over my dead body.’
All of us who are trying to be the voice of our grandchildren really must emphasise the fact that we are fighting for the rights of the grandchildren.
We must speak with one voice.
There is a whole generation of children growing up with only one parent in their lives, millions of them in fact, children believing that one of their parents doesn’t care about them and doesn’t love them, of course that is absolutely not true.
Dads, Mums and Grandparents have been cast to one side, of no importance, but the children are crying out to be able to have these relationships, it is their right to have all of their family members in their lives.
The adults in their lives should be their to give them all the love,care and support that children deserve.
It’s easy, its all about putting the children first, whatever the angst is with one parent against the other, has no place in a child’s life.
For what I hope might be the last time, although I know it won’t be, this is NOT about Grandparents Rights, it IS about doing whats right for the children and young people.