When I was thinking about the importance of grandparents I started thinking about my own grandparents and what memories I had of them.
My grandfather had a wicked sense of humour and would teach me all sorts of little ditties which I would trot out usually at the most inappropriate times, much to his delight. He also had a false eye and he would do some pretty scary things with it! One day I found it on the draining board!
Thank you so much for those who have shared their thoughts, they are wonderful.
“I was probably closest to my maternal Grandfather. He was my only Grandad, I was the only Granddaughter, I loved staying with them during the school holidays. My best memories are of travelling from Lawrence Hill station near their home to Weston or occasionally Weymouth for the day – if we woke up & it was sunny, we’d just up & go. My Grandad or ‘Bampy’ as he was known (it’s a Welsh thing I think) was an ex railwayman & got a certain number of rail passes free per year so it was an inexpensive day out, the guard rarely clipped his passes anyway being ‘ex job’ so we went quite often in the summer! ”
“I have many happy memories, I was lucky enough to have at least one Grandparent into my early 20’s sadly my own girls don’t have that privilege. It’s such an important relationship – my Dad would have adored my two & it makes me sad that he died before they were born, but they were very close to my Mum whilst she was with us.” ·
“My wonderful grandchildren are staying with me this week as its the school holidays and mummy and daddy are at work, we are making memories – we have been, to the cinema and we have taken the bus to the museum and today we have visited the great grandparents – what special times. ”
“I could write a small book on the impact my Fathers parents had on me as a young boy growing up in downtown Bedminster. Suffice it to share a few adjectives to describe them. Kind, Loving, Selfless, Patient, Tactile, Funny, Hard Working, Principled, Salt of the Earth, I could go on……….. And on…….”.
“I loved my grandparents and always spent much time listening to them, especially my Nanna.She always loved to send me to the shops on a Saturday, as I spent most of my time with them at weekends, to get her some’ Fancies’ from the corner shop and granddads pipe tobacco, as we were ‘allowed’ to be served in those days, with no problem whatsoever in being asked our age etc even though I was only 10 years old. Of course I didn’t look old enough to be asked anyway..The ‘Fancies’ were of course another name for our fav cakes of which we had four in a square white box.They were chosen by me but I knew excatly what they liked so in return I received one cream egg with the change..Oh memories, thanks for allowing me to remember how wonderful it was.”
“ I remember standing in the greetings card aisle in WH smiths laughing at all the funny/dirty cards with my Nan. We stood there for about an hour and really had the giggles. I think all we do is laugh when we’re together .”
“I had such a bond with my paternal grandmother -my dear Nan once told me that she had the cane twice at school on the palm if her hand – once for forgetting her thimble and once for jumping in a puddle! How tines have changed. ”
“Mine was a lot of love, understanding, explanation of why, a wealth of information and time, she never made me feel anything was too much trouble.
Grandparents, have more time, more patience and sometimes more life experiences.”
” My Mother separated from my Father when I was only four years old, my mum, me, my brother and my sister all moved back in with my Grandparents, they were the happiest times of my life. In those days you were brought up to respect your Elders, in later life my family used to tell me how fearsome they both could be but all I ever felt was loved, I still miss them even now. ”
” Because my mum had me at a young age I was brought up by my Nan and great Nan they were my mum & dad if you like, I loved them unconditionally , they taught me right from wrong and what it meant to be honest loving and caring with family values, When my parents eventually married I stayed living with my 2 nana’s but was never kept away from my parents I saw them when ever I wished, It was unheard of to keep children away from any family member,, Thanks to my Nans I had a wonderful childhood , My son only said yesterday his Nan was one in a million and we miss them everyday . ”
“I remember my granddad with so much love, his love for me and mine for him, I am what I am today because of my wonderful Nana, she was the hardest working woman I have ever met but the thing I remember most was them always being part of my life and never having to need permission to see them, we were all just one big family, Great Nan, Nan’s, Granddads, Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, the happiest times of my childhood were with my grandparent. ”
” I lived next door to my Gran, my Grandad died before I was born, I spent so much time with her. She had 13 children and you would have thought she would want the quite life when they all left home. She was seen by the community as the local nurse sick children were cared for by her. If I was ill my Nan would have to make the medicine. She played the organ and taught me songs and hymns. She took me to chapel even though I was brought up a Catholic I believe she I helped to instill a sense of tolerance equality and respect Thankfully my parents reinforced her teachings. ”
“We used to visit our grandparents every other weekend, I loved the time we spent with them, they took us on days out, stopovers, holidays all the things Mum and Dad could not afford, overall they gave us unconditional love my Grandmother is 102 and now she cannot see her only GG Grandchild.”
” I brought my children up to respect their grandparents, I was pregnant with my daughter when my dad died but he passed a lot of his values on to my son. Grandparents have more time to spend on their grandchildren and my mum also spent a lot of time with my son taking him out and about. Unfortunately by the time my daughter was born her health wasn’t too good though they did have good times together. On the other side my ex always made excuses that his mum had had her day and didn’t have time for her grandchildren so there was no bonding there. Now she is 92 and dying with lung cancer and has only one son out of 6 visiting her. Since my split with her son and her cancer diagnosis I have started visiting her and through talking with her found out it was my ex who kept us away from her as she said she would have loved to have seen us, and that she had been told lies about us too. Now my daughter is staying away from me but has her lying father in her life and its obvious where her family values are coming from! ”
“My granddad on mums side died before I was born and my other died when we were young. Grannies one lived with us helped bring us up and mum nursed her when she had dementia. My other was 2 doors down was around didn’t get on with myself and next brother down but spoilt other …. saying that she also was always around . our dad died when we were young so grannies were there for support., teaching and fun times. All worked as part of a team like I and husband do/ did . ”
“Staying with Granny was always a treat – either granny. There, I was the only one and it was so good to have an adult’s undivided attention. I remember beating the carpets that had been hung outside over the clothes line. But even the chores were fun at Granny’s. Neither grandmother ever seemed to make a judgment, though I’m sure they did as they both had strong principles. We just behaved ourselves with them. I miss so much the only one of our grandchildren that we were able to spend lots of time with. So the loss is so very much greater now she’s gone….. But I do have happy memories and hope she does too. ”
” Mine was a treat too, always wanted to have the same kind of relationship I had with my Granny, fun and loving, but what do they say about expectations!!! I live with my wonderful memories and just hope they do too.”
“I only had my gran from my dad’s side as my mum’s parents were dead before I was born. She was a strong lady who had been through a lot, including losing her two babies (one of which was my dad’s twin sister), the other was a boy who I believe was around 18 months old. She then went on to lose her son (my dad) when he was 60 and I was 23. She lived to be 95 so she lost all of her children before she died – very painful for her indeed. I know because of this that I was so special and felt very loved and felt that if anyone hurt a hair on my head, they would have to answer to my gran, ha ha!! She also suffered from epilepsy from the age of 8, so not an easy life and I think when I ‘came along’, she was joyous! Isn’t that nice?”
“We took at a trip to UK from New Zealand by ship for 6 months to visit my grandparents for Xmas when I was 2 1/2 yrs old. Dad bought a coloured movie camera for the trip and I fell in love with UK particularly the snowy village and grand house my grandparents lived in – Through looking at these movies time and time again in as I grew up. We had a lovely Xmas and my earliest memory comes from this trips . Nana and gagga emigrated from UK to new Zealand when I was about 6 years old and lived about 1 .5 miles away. We often went to stay with them for a couple of nights here and there and were always excited to go and my mum, nana and aunt would go shopping every Friday together and we would look forward to seeing them after school each Friday . My gagga would stay at our place while they went shopping and come and talk to us if we were home sick from school. My nana was quiet but always had a smile and was gentle. She taught me to knit even though I was left handed and she was right handed. My gagga (grandfather) was more cheerful and talkative. They emigrated half way round the world after retirement just to be with us but left behind a life full of memories, friends and brothers and sisters in UK . What a sacrifice. Perhaps it was not a wise choice for them as I think they were pretty lonely for the 20 years they lived in NZ . Apart from us and our big parties perhaps they were too old to start again as in those days, you didn’t go back and forth around the world like now. They never saw their friends and siblings again but I hope they enjoyed our family get togethers. I am so glad I got to know them as they are definitely the cement that bound us all together. They died when I was in my early 20s . I never knew my other grandmother as she died when I was 2 and my grand dad lived about 500 miles away and remarried. He was lovely though and taught me some card games when he came up to see us. He also chose to come up and die with us when he knew he had cancer. ”
” Unconditional love and always being there for me. One of my grandmothers lived upstairs in the same house. She always waved me off to school and was at the window when I came back. I can still see her there even though I moved away 50 years ago. ”