Grandparents Day

There seems to be a day for everything, many of them originating in America, one that appeared a few years ago was a day that is very difficult for so many.

October 7th is designated Grandparents Day.

I personally don’t quite get it, why on earth should there be a day for Grandparents?

Being a grandparent is a privilege.

For those who have a wonderful relationship with their grandchildren I am sure don’t want or expect their grandchildren to get caught up in yet another day of commercialisation.

They don’t want thanks for being a grandparent.

There are millions of grandparents this year, like many years before, who will have to face the shops, magazines and ads all portraying the ideal they so crave.

Cards, flowers and gifts.

As far as I am aware, the most important thing for grandparents is to hear the words,”I love you Grandma,Grandad.” and to receive one of those amazing hugs.

A hug is priceless.

Every grandparent who is denied contact with their grandchildren, aches with the emptiness, they have a knot in their stomach that never leaves them, just seeing other grandparents with their grandchildren takes their breath away.

That ‘living bereavement’ continues to eat away at them.

Photos to difficult to keep up, are put away in drawers, as though putting them out of sight will somehow make life a bit more bearable. To have constant reminders hurts too much.

For me all family members should be celebrated, everyday not just on a specific day, it is not the individual day that matters it is the importance of family per se that matters, the whole not the individual.

Working in schools as I did, all those in education should be much more aware of the difficulties in families.

Children who live with one parent, children who are not allowed to see their grandparents, will often go through the process of making cards for Mothers, Fathers Day and Grandparents Day, because it is easier than saying,

“I don’t see Dad/Mum, Granny or Grandad.”

For anyone who will find this day particularly difficult always please remember, you are still a grandparent and you always will be. It is just that at this moment in time you are unable to share your love with your grandchildren.

You are still in their hearts, they are thinking of you, you are not forgotten, and you never will be.

 

 

 

 

 

About Jane

Jane setup Bristol Grandparent Support Group in 2007 after a string of incidents led to the loss of contact with her Grand Daughter.

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