It is astonishing to me when I look back at the blogs I have written, so many have a similar theme, not because of estrangement/alienation, but about the very worse side of some people when you interact with other groups and organisations.
Firstly I need to say, this is not happening to me at the moment, but it has in the past.
At the very heart of estrangement/alienation are children.
Children who are facing a daily sadness because of adults behaviour.
They may be your children, grandchildren, sisters, brothers, nieces, nephews, cousins, but ALL children.
We and others have spent years raising public awareness, we have put our heads above the parapet for the sake of the children.
It would seem, to the outside world that if you are working towards the same aim as others that you could work together, you can’t.
As I have said I have written about this so many times, I am trying not to just repeat myself, so I am sorry if you just think
Oh, here we go again.
There are literally hundreds of amazing individuals doing such good things, some behind the scenes others out in the forefront, but the infighting is appalling.
When someone comes up with a new approach they get jumped on from a great height, they are told in no uncertain terms to ‘back off.’
What the heck is that all about, what gives anyone the right to make such judgements on others?
Let’s be perfectly honest here.
For years and years, certain groups, organisations, have been looking at Parental and Grandparent Alienation, some deciding to do ‘stunts’ of all sorts, and I absolutely get that these are people who are at the end of their tether, the system has let them down, so they do anything they can, but where has it got us?
Dare I mention an association for grandparents, who spent years campaigning for Grandparent’s Rights, and it got them nowhere either.
We have to be doing things in a different way.
The focus is the children, without question, anyone who thinks it isn’t, sorry but they are wrong.
What is more serious is that if we want the government and the public to support us, and to get behind any campaign we have to stop this slagging off, of one another.
What is it actually saying about us, what does it do to for the cause?
Any person who is in power, sees the rift between these groups and it paints the wrong picture, we must be united, we have to put egos, hidden agendas to one side, fighting between ourselves will never allow any of us to break the silence of the emotional abuse that is alienation of children.
I would go as far to say that it plays into alienators hands.
We all have to be the bigger person.
The tide is turning but if people go on behaving this way, we will lose everything that we have all worked so hard for.
None of these groups or organisations are about one person, they should all be about the children.
Yes, we are all entitled to our own opinion, but just because you believe your way is the only way, we are at stalemate.
Our children and grandchildren are looking to us to help them, how we conduct ourselves, matters.