As I have already written Christmas is a particularly difficult time for grandparents who are estranged from their grandchildren.
The reasons it is so hard are to be honest obvious.
Portrayal of family time, shared joy and inclusivity, is in the long, distant past.
We all wonder if our grandchildren ever think of us.
Not just at Christmas time but everyday, we do have to allow ourselves a few moments to just be quiet and think about those who are no longer in our lives, allow the time to grieve, allow the tears to fall, this is your moment, your time for reflection.
Once you have had your moment, its time to think about you and to think about all the good things in your life, fill your life with those who love and care for you.
Try to be proactive, turn this negative into a positive.
So as we get closer to Christmas Day here are some survival tips:
Remember that Christmas is not as appears on the TV ads, not all families are gathering in joy and harmony!
1: Put up lights or a special decoration, maybe a small table top tree.
2: Invite someone else who is alone to spend time with you.
3: Volunteer to help out in one of the many organizations who offer a welcome to those less fortunate than ourselves.
4: Give yourself some quiet time.
5: Remember what Christmas is about. The first Christmas wasn’t full of materialistic things it was about hope.
6: Plan something special.
7: Go somewhere you have never been before.
8: Write a poem or song.
9: Play music, have a film marathon.
10: Have your own act of remembrance, that could be hanging something special on a tree, planting some bulbs or lighting a candle.
11: Go for a walk, look at nature and al that it offers, check out new buds just forming, a sign of Spring.
12: Arrange a Skype chat with others who are feeling low.
13: Indulge a little.
14: Do something you have never done before.
Above all else be kind to yourself.