I was thinking about trust this morning, and I wonder how many people we can actually trust?
Maybe the sad answer is no-one, except ourselves.
To be able to fully trust anyone you have to know that whatever the situation, whenever you need someone, that person is always there for you, no questions, no judgment just there.
It isn’t someone who always agrees with you, or always wants to please, it is those special people that come into your life.
For those who are experiencing family breakdown in all its forms, there is no doubt that trust has been broken, those we thought we trusted turning against us.
Of course it doesn’t have to be family members it can be those you consider to be friends, who for one reason or another might decide to talk about you in a disrespectful way to others or who find it necessary to undermine you. Often not to your face but behind your back.
Trusting someone is sharing your vulnerabilities to another person, exposing yourself, believing that they will not take advantage of your openness.
To have trustworthy people in our lives enables us to have a safe place in the present.
It is devastating when that trust is abused, it leaves us feeling betrayed and exposes our vulnerabilities once more.
Trust is fragile and once broken is incredibly difficult to rebuild.
As an example, my Father betrayed me and I never trusted him again.
One of the feelings you have when trust is broken is anger, understandably, we can seek ‘justice’, in other words seeking retribution of some sort. You also feel , loss.
The loss of a family member or of a friend.
I consider myself to be extraordinarily lucky as I have several friends who I have known for over 50 years and I trust them implicitly. They know everything there is to know about me, they knew all my family whilst we were growing up and I know that they would never let me down, and I will never let them down either. That relationship is priceless.
I am not saying we should never trust anyone, just thinking we need to be a little more cautious before we bare our souls.
Every single one of us who is apart from a loved one is hurting beyond words, and the need to trust is so important.