What an extraordinary year 2014 has been for BGSG, it takes my breath away if I stand and think back.

A group that started in 2007 with 9 grandparents arriving for tea and cake at my house has grown to contact with over 2 thousand grandparents,fortunately for me not all arriving for tea and cake at my house!

We have gained recognition nationally and internationally, we have featured on national TV and Radio and in the newspapers and magazines.

Hopefully the public are much more aware now of the living bereavement that is contact denial, of the emotional abuse it causes not only to the adults but most importantly the emotional abuse of the children/grandchildren.

As we move forward into 2015 we must all play our part in speaking out at every opportunity of putting pressure on our MP’s, it is no good them telling us that they are listening to children, we know from our own experience that they are not listening, those who are there to protect our children/grandchildren are allowing them to be alienated from parents and grandparents, they are not listening to the voice of children. Children are being told  they are liars when they speak the truth, or that they are only young so have to put up with this treatment.

It is not in a child’s best interest to be parted from a parent or grandparent, the adults may be at war with one another but the children are not their weapons.

As parents when we have children we don’t own them, they are on loan to us, we need to remind ourselves of this often:

On Children

by Kahlil Gibran

 

Your children are not your children.

They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.

They come through you but not from you,

And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.

 

You may give them your love but not your thoughts.

For they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their souls,

For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.

For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

 

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.

The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.

Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;

For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

 

So in 2015 we will build on what has been achieved so far and continue to give help and support and to meet up with those who are setting up groups around the UK.

BGSG is successful because of each and every member in the group, it is all the individuals who are giving their own support to others and who have taken part in our befriending service, who make it work so well.

I would like to thank everyone who has supported us, advised us and generally been there for us, without you this would not have happened.

I would like to wish everyone a Happy and Healthy New Year, and we will make a difference if we all work together, for the sake of our children/grandchildren.

 

Jane