Social media in all its forms can be a blessing or a blight.

It has made the world a very small place it enables people to remain in contact where ever they are in the world.

Photos of the other side of the world can be shared, it is wonderful to see places that you will never go to, through others eyes.

Of course it also is a great way for people to connect with one another, particularly when they are looking for support, looking for a virtual shoulder in difficult times.

Our Facebook page allows grandparents to ‘talk’ to other grandparents at any time of the day or night.

There is as we all know another side of the world wide web, it is a place where people can hide their true identity and they wait ready to pounce on people, they are abusive and defamatory.

I like many others have been on the receiving end of these idiots, I have had people discredit me and our charity on numerous occasions.

I have even had anonymous emails from people, well I say anonymous but actually they just use a different name and email address, usually I know who they are, they have a way of dropping identity hints, not very clever really.

Fortunately it doesn’t happen often, but when it does, it is horrible and hurtful.

What I find so disturbing is when someone quite innocently posts something and then there is a deluge of insults from people, I watched a programme this morning with Fern Britton about her journey to The Holy Land, the response on Twitter by some was unbelievable. If you don’t like something why don’t people just switch off?

A similar thing happened to Nick Knowles last week after his appearance on Saturday Kitchen.

I am sure if you are in the public eye you are used to it, although I am sure that it still is horrible.

Similarly there is a plethora of forums about estrangement/alienation that posters continually bad mouth family members using phrases like Nice Daughter or Nice Son, Nasty Daughter and much worse, I understand that there is a great deal of anger but how can it possibly help the situation to write things like that?

Mostly the platforms I am talking about are public, they can be read by anyone and everyone, until recently one particular site had posters  naming family members. If I was one of those named, reconciliation would be impossible.

So it is right to be cautious, be prepared for a backlash sometimes, but to not feed the ‘trolls.’

“I’m a troll, fol-dee-rol, I’m a troll, fol-dee-rol I’m a troll, fol-dee-rol, fol-dee-rol-dee-rullee I have three heads and I have three hats I have three chins and I have three cats I have six eyes and I have six ears.”

Perfect description!

Jane