It is perfectly understandable that when you find yourself facing estrangement and  alienation that you feel angry.

Angry that you have been prevented from being part of your grandchildren’s lives, angry that you have missed precious years, angry with those who have not put the interests of the children first, angry that your daughter or son if prevented from having contact with their children, angry with a son or daughter who has made the decision to cut you out of their lives, angry with a justice system that allows this to happen, angry with the ‘experts’ who don’t help children going through alienation, the list could go on and on. I have no doubt that you can all add many more.

So what does it achieve, all this anger?

For me it doesn’t achieve anything at all, to carry around all of this aggression serves no purpose.

Physically it is damaging our heart rate increases, increases anxiety, increases blood pressure ect.

Of course sometimes we do need to ‘let of steam’ otherwise we explode like a pressure cooker, but to feel anger every minute of every day is not healthy.

The people we are angry with are not affected in any way, the only people who are affected is ourselves.

It is important to channel your anger, trying to rip up a telephone directory is a good one! Go for a walk and walk fast, clean the tiles in the bathroom, get out into the garden and start digging, in other words turn it into a positive action.

I am reminded of this: “Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Buddha.

Jane