As we approach Easter time many grandparents who are estranged from their grandchildren are battling with ‘what to do?’

‘Do I send an Easter present or not?’

‘If I don’t send anything they will think I don’t care.’

‘If I do send something, will the police come knocking as might get accused of harassment?’

Yes, really, sending an Easter egg ect can be seen as harassment and often is, for those of you who have a wonderful relationship with your grandchildren, will think I am making it up. Those of us who do not, know it is true.

It seems we are dammed if we do, dammed if we don’t.

Each individual has to do what they think is right for them, but what I would say is, give it a great deal of thought.

If it means that you are going to put yourself under even more stress and worry then don’t do it.

Maybe you could think of an alternative, planting Spring bulbs, adding a blossom tree to your garden that will blossom every year, just marking Easter in a slightly different way. Add to your memory box, remember a memory box is for your grandchildren, so fill it full of memories, cards, anything at all, it is evidence that you never forgot.

Those of us who have lost contact are going through terrible pain and heartbreak, we can’t make it go away, but we can regain control of our own lives, living our lives to the full, life is a gift to us all and we must embrace it.

Life is not all plain sailing, stuff happens, horrible situations arise it is how we manage those challenges that makes us the people we are.

Of course we can’t all walk about without a care in the world, but we can focus on the positives in our lives, make sure that we give ourselves a period of time each day where we allow ourselves to sit quietly and think about those we have lost, and then walk forward.

Easter is a time for reflection, it also a time of beginnings, a time to renew and refresh.

Jane