It seems there are numerous articles in the media at the moment, as there are every single year about loneliness and isolation, but it is not just lonely and isolating at Christmas for some people it is 365 days a year.

Being lonely and isolated can occur for many different reasons, but there is no doubt that the epidemic proportions of family breakdown is a contributory factor.

It appears that family members are no longer important, one parent, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins are no longer necessary. Just a wrong word, a difference of opinion is often enough for estrangement and alienation to begin.

I was reading this morning that alienated children think it is perfectly normal for family members to be discarded, that they are disposable, if they become a bit difficult then you just don’t bother with them anymore.

How things have changed.

I can so clearly remember having to be polite and to be respectful to all members of the family even if they were unutterably boring. Lots of  family who would descend for Christmas lunch, not all seeing eye to eye by any means, but they were family so you just accepted them for who they were. There was no question of anyone being on their own. Families were important, and we looked out for one another.

 

It is the lengths that people will go to, to cause so much unhappiness that astounds me.

Brainwashing their own children so that they believe that separated family members are bad people in some way. To the extent that the children will tell a non resident parent or grandparent that they want nothing to do with them, they don’t want birthday presents, Christmas presents or cards and letters. They want no contact at all.

What is going to happen when these children are adults and have children of their own?

Maybe they too will become disposable? I pray that is not the case.

You don’t have to be older to be lonely and isolated.

Our ‘Tree of Hope,” is shining out under a dark sky, full of messages of love, one day the children will know how much they were loved by so many.

Jane

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