It is only natural that particuarly at this time of the year that raw emotions run high, people need to vent and sometimes I find myself in the firing line.

Am I hardened to it?

No.

In the last 8 1/2 years I have had my fair share of abuse, you would think from perhaps those who alienate children, but actually it is the very people you try to support, that will suddenly turn on you.

I suppose I say or write stuff that they don’t agree with, so they start to have a go.

We find ourselves in this position due to adult conflict, the last thing we need is to face conflict from those who share a common pain.

Every single estranged parent or grandparent is suffering the loss of a precious person, how we got here should be irrelevant.

Often that is not the case, I have had it said or implied that because I don’t see my granddaughter as a result of my sons divorce it is not the same as those whose own children are denying them contact.

Equally, I will get responses on Twitter from estranged Dads that it is worse for them.

To put the record straight, I would and never have put so called ‘Grandparents Rights’ (a phrase I hate) before the rights of estranged parents. Having a son who is a Dad who hasn’t had any contact for nearly 9 years, of course I put him first, always. He is the reason I do what I do.

The truth is, and those who know me will know, that I have never been about anyones rights, only the children’s rights. A right to be loved and cared for by both of their parents, they love Mum and Dad.

Losing contact with a child not only happens because of a separation or divorce, it is also a result of alcohol/drug dependancy, domestic violence within the home, bereavement of family feud.

The end result is the same, children being deprived of the love and care of all their family.

We really are in this together.

Jane